What Does It Mean To Be A Man

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I raised my head from my hands and looked out the window facing my bed. The problems of the world threatened to beat me into submission, but there was a voice in the back of my mind propelling me forward. It was the last sliver of hope that kept me sane in a world  working to destroy the last vestiges of my will. I just realized that to be a man meant you had to be indomitable.

How often do you feel like this? Feel like the problems of the world have gotten the best of you and there’s no way for you to rise above the status quo. There’s no way for you to achieve the lofty goals you’ve set for yourself? It’s a normal part of life, but it shouldn’t be so difficult to bear.

 

To Be a Man is not Easy

The process of being and becoming a man may be one of the most difficult transitions in life. Anyone that tells you it’s complete by the age of eighteen is a fool and deserves to be treated as such. The transformation into manhood is never complete.

Sometimes, I wish we could all go back in time and try to relive the moments we regret most. Honestly, I think many of us would make the same or a very similar decision. Not because we didn’t learn from it but because that’s part of what’s made us who we are today.

You’re the sum total of your behaviors, actions, and beliefs.Who you are wasn’t created by a single bad or a single good decision. It was created by the sum total of all your actions to date.

Even if you were to go back in time and change a particular action, you’d probably make the same mistake a few days, weeks, or months later.

This is nothing to be ashamed of. Rather, it is just a normal stepping stone that we go through in our ultimate quest to understand ourselves.

That goal, to understand yourself and to do everything in your power to remain faithful to that understanding is a major part of what it takes to be a man.

To be a Man is to understand defeat

I was reading a book the other day about motivation. In that book, the author spoke about the power of failure. Failure is not something that should be avoided but embraced. You must go through failures and setbacks in this life, if you do not, then you can never begin to embrace the challenges that make you strong and learn from them.

Failure isn’t something you should avoid but embrace. You must go through failures and setbacks in this life, if you don’t, then you can never begin to embrace the challenges that make you strong and learn from them.

Failure is something you  should be intimate with. Not as a constant companion but as an inevitability. Who are you to go through life without ever falling down?

But it’s not the process of falling that defines you it’s the power to stand up again. If you can do that, stand up every time and learn from what went wrong then you are that much closer to attaining excellence in your life.

I will never tell you it’ll be easy, hell, I’m probably the first person that will tell you it’s going to be hard. What I will tell you is that it’s much easier to chase your dreams than you may think. There’s a certain joy when you try, fail, then try again.

You know you’re learning from every one of your mistakes and are drawing yourself closer and closer to your end goal.

Onward my brother, continue onward and choose your own path.

To be a man is an amazing journey

With all this political correctness, it’s easy to forget that men and women are very very different. We don’t think the same, we don’t act the same, and we don’t feel emotions in the same way.

This is because we’re hardwired in a different way, we seek solutions, we analyze problems, and we sacrifice everything for the goal.

Don’t get me wrong, there are many amazing women that do the same thing but I can speak from experience when I say many of the women in my life have broken down under pressure. I accept the fact that women are different and love them for different reasons.

Back to this amazing journey.

It’s up to us to take care of our destiny and steer it in the right direction. As we steer it, we’ll discover what it means to be a man. Mind you, it means something else to every person.

I didn’t grow up in the same place as you. I didn’t interact with the same people as you, and I didn’t fall in and out of love with the same women as you.

Because we all have had an extremely different upbringing and experiences throughout our lives, we all perceive manhood differently. That’s why he road to becoming a man is an amazing journey.

It’s full of obstacles and challenges that test our will and our intelligence. At the same time, we’re allowed to meet people that propel us forward and if you let them, drag us down.

The ultimate accomplishment is to find out what it means for you to be a man. Not that bullshit in popular culture but the real unabashed, unashamed, unadulterated version of the truth.

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I don’t have the answers and I really don’t give a damn about that. What I do care about is my ability to keep on fighting until I understand what being a man is to me. I hope you’ll join me on this journey and if you do, I promise it will be one hell of a ride.

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