101 ways to become a better man
101 ways to become a better man is in line with the core values at Indomitable Audacity, working to help you to become the best you possible. We’re all on different paths seeking different targets and the only thing that we can do is work to be the best we can be on the way to that goal. Part of that is being the best man possible so here are some dead serious as well as fun ways to make that goal a reality. Here are the 101 ways to become a better man in no particular order.
- Decide to be a better man.
You can’t go very far in your quest to be a better man if you do not make a conscious decision to be one.
- Save a Damsel in Distress.
I remember when I was bagging groceries when I was working at a grocery store a while back. My coworker, who was about six months pregnant, swooned and I was there to catch her. It may not have been much but they called me a hero for six months afterwards and I helped her out.
- Have Sex on the Beach
Before you do this, make sure that the beach is relatively safe so that you don’t get mugged following “Daniel Ndukwu’s advice”
- Do some yoga.
Although many hardcore exercise buffs will tell you that Yoga is a womans exercise, I disagree. The first time I tried it, I worked muscles that I didn’t even know I had. An added plus is that it’s a great way to meditate.
- Jump out of a plane.
Not as a suicide attempt but for fun. This is still on my bucket list but if you have tried it, leave a comment and let me know how the experience was.
- Watch Your weight.
Being overweight is not a good thing. Ever. It is amazing how many chronic diseases you can avoid by working to stay fit.
- Climb a mountain.
I have done this before, Stone Mountain has been scratched off my bucket list
- Dress like a Man.
Graphic tees are now allowed to be worn unless you are in high school or you’re a freshman in college. Antonio Centeno at Real Men Real Style can help you with this if you are having challenges.
- Walk the length of the Silver Comet Trail
The Silver Comet Trail is 1,000 miles of easy hiking that will allow you to commune with nature in a profound way. I have not crossed my state line but it is definitely one of those things on the bucket list.
- Take up Mixed Martial Arts.
Not because I want the entire male population to become mixed martial Artists but because the benefits to you are so much more than that.
- Learn to make the Seven Essential Drinks.
This sage wisdom was imparted by The Distilled Man, you can even download a PDF on how to mix them.
- Practice Indomitable Audacity.
It’s a shameless plug but I do not care, you can start at the genesis.
- Grow an awesome beard
My beard did not come into its own until I was about twenty-five but we all develop at our own pace right? The days of a clean-shaven chin being the only acceptable way to go about the world are long gone and most men can grow a decent one if they can put in a little effort. For a look at a great beard and killer tips on how to maintain one, check out http://www.urbanbeardsman.com/
- Learn a second Language.
I speak English Fluently, enough Spanish to avoid being kidnapped in Mexico, and a little Igbo; the native tongue of my ancestors. My partner loves it when I seduce her in different languages and I’m sure yours will too.
- Learn the art of blogging.
Blogging is an art form just like singing, dancing, and painting. It can inspire or incite the masses just like a well-delivered speech. We all have an opinion, some more important than others, so I encourage everyone to give it a try.
- Travel Extensively.
I only have six countries under my belt but I am actively working to increase that number. This is definitely at the top of my bucket list and I want to visit at least 75 before I leave the earth. Get out there man, see new sights and experience new cultures.
- Brush up on honor.
Honor, also called chivalry by some, is far from being dead. You can brush up on the essentials with the evolution of honor as told by The Art of Manliness
- Join a fraternity of like minds.
Not the college ones that are good for alcohol, sex, and random acts of violence (I speak from experience here). I mean a community that shares your ideals and will help you to achieve them (Indomitable Audacity).
- Chase your Obsession.
Passion is cool but to change the world you need to be obsessed with your mission.
- Complete a few DIY projects
Do you really want or need to call another man to do all the grunt work? I don’t know about you but I derive a certain amount of satisfaction when I am able to get a job done on my own. Visit man made DIY for some cool projects to start with.
- Train Like an Animal.
Nate has one of the best taglines for Iron and Tweed; Train like an Animal. Dress like a Man. I agree with both halves.
- Juice it.
Better health in just one year. At least that is what I have been told since my one year is not complete yet. You can ask Mike about it at Danger and Play yourself.
- Learn about at least 1 other religion.
I have taken the time to look into the three major monotheistic religions and have realized that they have striking similarities (its really a wonder that men and women kill each other over basically the same beliefs). I have also adopted some of the teachings of the Middle Way that was advocated by The Buddha so many years ago. At the very least, it will make you more tolerant.
- Choose a charity.
Choose one charity that you donate to regularly. If you are fortunate enough to pay for internet access then you can probably spare a few dollars for the billions of people living in poverty.
Train the next generation of young men to become better than us.
- Take an active role in your community
You have no right to complain about the way things are until you attempt to fix them.
- Get out of your comfort zone
Men never achieve greatness by staying in their comfort zone
- Do something that scares the shit out of you
As long as it does not involve something that will cause you bodily harm
- Become a mentor or get a mentor
There is nothing new under the sun so either teach what you know so it can be improved upon or learn something from an expert then improve it.
- Learn from the Order of man
A relatively new website but they have some really great articles that will get you pumped, they are doing something right.
- Groom religiously
People notice but they won’t tell you. Grooming is much more than cutting your hair every so often, http://www.apetogentleman.com/ can help you out.
- Shine your shoes
Yes, people notice and yes, you should care. A pair of dirty or scuffed shoes is the best way to make a bad first impression.
- Visit Return of kings
They are a fan of neomasculinity there if you are not a fan I suggest you steer clear.
- Cultivate your reputation
Your reputation precedes you so pick one thing and make it synonymous with your name.
- Develop better posture
Posture affects how the world perceives you and how you perceive yourself. Good posture increases testosterone and increases cortisol levels.
- Attend Stylecon
To be the best, learn from the best.
- Attempt fearlessly
So many things boil down to whether you do it or you don’t
- Watch the sunrise
Nothing like watching the sun god carry his burden across the sky
Meditate for at least thirty minutes a day. Think back on what you have done and what you want to do, it keeps everything in perspective.
- Define your Core Values.
Knowing who you are as a human being while understanding what you stand for or against makes life so much simpler. You can use this worksheet to help you along in defining your core values.
- Read at least 26 books a year
I won’t even attempt to get into the benefits of reading, but you should try and read one at least every two weeks. If you can manage one hundred in a year then you will be considered an expert in your field.
- Champion a humanitarian cause
I don’t mean the button clicking of Avaaz, I want you to get in the trenches
- Click a button for Avaaz
Avaaz is great, I have clicked their button scores of time and always find myself donating. They write amazing sales copy.
- Learn to create
Create opportunities, create relationships, create works of art, and create a life worth living.
- Practice fiscal responsibility
We were not meant to pay bills and die. A true sign of maturity is getting your finances in order.
- Take a break from technology
Turn off the TV, your phone, and router. Now interact with the amazing people in your life.
- Visit Africa
I don’t mean go on a safari, I mean visit the real Africa, one of the cradles of civilization.
- Visit Brazil during Carnival
Do I need to say more?
- Spend a Day with Earth, Wind, and Fire
The epitome of pouring your heart out on the mic
- Spend the next day with Frank Sinatra
This man’s voice is like acoustic gold, cocaine for the eardrums.
- Roosh V Forum
This will be for guys that are having trouble with ladies.
- Take your long time partner out
Remember when you used to try really hard to make things fun when you met her? Keep trying.
- Learn to dance
Saying “I am not a dancer has never been an adequate excuse.
- Seize opportunities when they come
A few years ago, I applied to work in Dubai without giving it much thought. When the call came that they liked what they saw and wanted me to fly down to get to know them better I bowed out. Do not make the same mistake I did.
- Join my mailing list to get updates
You can’t blame me for trying right? Don’t worry, I hate spam more than you.
- Visit Mantelligence
If you want to increase your mantelligence the feel free to pay them a visit.
- Get your priorities in order
If you’re putting material possessions before your loved ones, you need to stop it before you lose both.
- Live a little more dangerously
Don’t go and risk your life doing something stupid but a life well lived abhors mediocrity.
- Invest in yourself
An investment in yourself whether it is your education, your appearance, or general personal improvement is never a waste.
- Do some manual labor
Men were meant to get a little dirty, work outdoors, and breath the fresh air mother nature has provided.
- Take a few Coursera classes
Coursera offers thousands of free courses across different fields. You can also pay a stipend and the course will be certified.
- Surround yourself with positivity
- Invest in a few suits
Not the $100 variety, I mean a work of art that everyone will thank you for.
- Listen more than you speak
You were given one mouth and two ears on purpose. Active listening is one of those important skills that many lack.
- Be Magnanimous
People misunderstand the truly great all the time, they are usually considered eccentric. As you break the shackles of mediocrity you will attract haters but always be willing to forgive them.
- Go bungee jumping
This is still on the bucket list.
- Go white water rafting
What can make you a better man more than testing your mettle against mother nature?
- Build your Network
Your network is your net worth. It is one of the largest determinants of whether you win, lose, or draw.
- Get lost in a foreign city
Take one of your good friends and explore a city you have never been in. Please avoid the seedy places at night.
- Discipline yourself
Self-control is one of the sacred skills that we call all get a little better at.
- Lift breath succeed
It’s a simple mantra but surprisingly effective.
- Memorize a poem or two
This helps improve your concentration and memory by a large degree.
- Put in a full eight hours of sleep
- Delete ALL the porn on your phone and computer
Use that energy elsewhere like in getting a girl. Besides, you are killing your seed.
- Drink more water
- Walk on the outside of the sidewalk
Many people don’t know that the that the man is supposed to walk closest to the road to protect the women and children in case a car jumps the curb.
- Give it your all
No more pussy footing. No more half-assing. Either you stamp your name on it proudly or not at all.
- Play hard.
Play just as hard as you work. If you work like a millionaire then play like one too.
- Understand your emotions
Emotions are what make us who we are, once you can understand them you are closer to being able to control them.
Not everything is so important. Determine which ones are and are not.
- Write a few letters
When is the last time you got a handwritten letter or even wrote one yourself. This is an amazing way to connect with someone and will be remembered much longer than an email.
- Open the door for her
I happen to felt that chivalry is not dead and I do open the door for women. My sisters, my aunties, my mother etc. nothing wrong with being a gentleman.
- Learn when it’s time to move on
When you stay in relationships too long, it causes you and the other person undue pain. Get going while the getting is good.
- Be up front
If you want to be friends; hell her. If you want to fuck her till she screams; tell her. If you want a long term relationship; tell her.
- Do it like the A-Team (the original ones)
I grew up watching the A team. They taught me to use the resources at my disposal to craft excellence. You can do the same.
- Wear clothes that fit
No more sagging, no more huge shirts. You are a man so dress like it.
- Run a marathon
Every man should do this at least once in his life, it’s a great character building exercise.
- Make a great business card
If your business card sucks, you suck. Here is a site that can help you make Amazing business cards
- Keep a clean home
Do I need to explain this?
- Join the FastLane Forum
The Fastlane Forum is based on the book of the same name. It vets all new applicants before entry. It’s a great place to meet leaders in different fields.
- Focus on the task at hand
Your productivity can skyrocket when you focus. This means no internet, no tv, no conversations until you het er done.
- Compete with yourself every day
The most sublime and rewarding competition is the one you take up with yourself.
- Read the science of getting rich
This book is amazing and its public domain which means you can get it for free
- Get some custom stationary
This may be over the top for some of you but it is the ultimate finesse touch. This is one of the loudest but most understated ways of saying “I care about my reputation”
- Customize one more thing
It all about finesse, 80/20 rule here.
- Invest in your scent
I have been favoring Tom Ford Black Orchid and YSL Kouros for the last few months. They do really well with my skin chemistry.
- Get one ball point pen
Because those million dollar deals should not be signed with a bic
- Accomplish Masterfully
This is the next step after attempting fearlessly.
- Vacation in the Nordic Countries
This is a personal entry to my bucket list but I am sure that all those Danish, Finnish, and Swedish women will make me a better man.
- Watch Sean Connery do James bond
That is how it was meant to be done. Daniel Craig lacks the finesse required in a true bond.
- Be yourself.
Do not eve apologize for who you are as a person. It is just bad form. You are unique through your countless experiences; allow the world to benefit from that. You can emulate but never imitate.
102. Remember that you’re a very unique individual and sometimes all you need to do is say Fuck it
You are now equipped with the resources to join the ranks of so of the most amazing men on the planet. The only thing that you need to do now is apply what you have gained. The only thing stopping you from reaching the top is just that, application.